MARRY for LOVE or STABILITY??

Now-a-days, everyone has their own opinions and views of what marriage should be.  I am in No way married or even close to getting married (I'll get to that when the time comes... If that time comes).  Anyhow, as a kid adults were often in my ear telling me all of these reasons to marry or not to marry.  I found them to be very interesting and unexpected to say the least.

 

Honestly, marriage is not a big deal in my family... I can count on one hand how many are actually married.  For advice on that slice of life , I had to rely on others such as teachers, mentors...etc.  I remember being in the 7th grade and had a teacher say to me, "Senobia, you are a Beautiful girl and many men will love and adore you; however, you make sure they love you more than you love them... and absolutely do Not marry solely for love.  Love will eventually fade away, but if you have stability, you can still survive and push through."  The look on my face on my face though... Priceless!!  I said to myself, "This woman is a freaking Looney Bin!!"

 

Now that I'm older and wiser, I get to see how things operate for myself.  I can clearly make the decision to marry for whatever reasons "I" choose to do so (to each his own).  One thing I will say is that from what I've witnessed through others, marriage has become completely distorted.  I can't base my life off of others but damn... I'm not getting the butterfly feeling in my stomach or googly eyes either. 

 

Sooo, I recently asked this young lady (26 years old) what was her reason to marry.  She told me that she came from nothing and refuses to go back to having nothing.  She loves her fiancé', but she needs stability in her life more so than love.  Once love fades away then what do you have left?  I don't judge but I was like "Wow... Okay, I appreciate your honesty...Lol!"

 

You have those who say marriage should only be for love because money isn't everything (love doesn't pay the mortgage).  We also have those who say it should be stability because people fall out of love all the time... then comes Divorce.  Biblically we all know what marriage should be; however, not many people have a true understanding of what is really asked of us.

 

I always like to hear what others have to say on this matter because everyone is different and I DO NOT JUDGE.  That is not my place.  Again, I am not yet married nor am I ashamed of not being married.  I'm not one who rushes into things for the sake of saying I'm married or for the glitz and glamour of it all.  When I feel it is my time, I will stand before GOD and make that vow.  Until then, I'm doing me... (Take it however you like).  So, whenever that time comes for you, be it male or female what will be your true reason for marrying?  Is it Love or Stability?

~Live Unapologetically